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15 Points to Ponder on What Holds Us Back 

By  Robbie MacCue

you have the powerBelow are 15 tips that can be a LIFE-CHANGER if you want them to be.  Remember, it is NOT about always being perfect or positive. It IS about catching yourself when you find you’re in one of these “modes” of thinking. You have the choice to “give it up” at any moment and to be in communication with the people in your life. The more we can let go of what’s bothering us, the more power we can have in life to pursue what matters to us (YOU HAVE THE POWER — In my best HE-MAN voice).

  1. BEING RIGHT: You are continually on trial to prove that your opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and you will go to any length to demonstrate your rightness.
  2. BLAMING: You hold other people responsible for your pain, or take the other tack and blame yourself for every problem or reversal.
  3. SHOULD: You have a list of ironclad rules about how you and other people should act. People who break the rules anger you and you feel guilty if you violate the rules.
  4. PERSONALIZATION: Thinking that everything people do or say is some kind of reaction to you. You also compare yourself to others, trying to determine who’s smarter, better looking, etc.
  5. FILTERING: You take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation.
  6. POLARIZED THINKING: Things are black or white, good or bad. You have to be perfect or you’re a failure. There is no middle ground.
  7. OVER-GENERALIZATION: You come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or piece of evidence. If something bad happens once you expect it to happen over and over again.
  8. MIND READING: Without their saying so, you know what people are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, you are able to divine know how people are feeling toward you.
  9. CATASTROPHIZING: You expect disaster. You notice or hear about a problem and start “what if’s”. What if tragedy strikes? What if it happens to you?”
  10. CONTROL FALLACIES: If you feel externally controlled, you see yourself as helpless, a victim of fate. The fallacy of internal control has you responsible for the pain and happiness of everyone around you.
  11. FALLACY OF FAIRNESS: You feel resentful because you think you know what’s fair but other people won’t agree with you.
  12. EMOTIONAL REASONING: You believe that what you feel must be true-automatically. If you feel stupid and boring, then you must be stupid and boring.
  13. FALLACY OF CHANGE: You expect that other people will change to suit you if you just pressure or cajole them enough. You need to change people because your hope for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
  14. GLOBAL LABELING: You generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment.
  15. HEAVEN’S REWARD FALLACY: You expect all your sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if there were someone keeping score. You feel better when the reward doesn’t come.

These above 15 points were used from a source that is unknown, if you know what article please let me know so I can reference them.

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Robbie MacCue


Robbie is the cofounder of the EMS Leadership Academy, host of the EMS Leadership Summit, and paramedic captain in Albany, NY where he serves in the Special Operations Division for ground rescue, flight, & tactical medicine. He performs international medical flights with North America's largest fixed wing Air Ambulance service. For more than 14 years, Robbie served as President of a non-profit EMS organization advocating for increased funding and raising the bar of excellence. In addition, Robbie is an American Heart Association advocate who is passionate about empowering others to save more lives. He has taught physicians, nurses, and other medical providers Advanced Cardiac Life Support at medical schools and hospitals throughout Manhattan. Robbie has undergraduate degree from Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, and a MBA from Case Western Reserve University and provides business consulting that combines his love of technology with healthcare.

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